It Doesn’t Have to Be Scary

Frequently I get new clients who tell me they have been sitting on my card for several months; one client for a year. They tell me how many times they’ve almost called to set up an appointment. I can’t help but think, what makes therapy so scary? I know that for some, the issue is...

How to Recover From a Breakup

The people that know me know that I tend to do things a bit differently. When working with clients who have gone through a breakup, I encourage them to think about if the heartache is fueled by missing the person, or missing what the person represented to him or her. Let me explain: Often my...

Dare To Take Up Space

Over the last several months a theme has arisen with many of my clients: they are afraid to take up space. As cisgendered women, we discuss how we have been socialized to take up less space. We sit with our arms crossed and legs close together on a bus, or even worse, in my office....

Why I Do What I Do

Often people ask me why I became a therapist. They ask if it gets tiring to hear people talk about themselves all day. Or if it is depressing to “listening to people’s problems”. To me, I think they’re viewing it all wrong. When someone is submerged in their own problems, they may likely feel overwhelmed....

Paying For “Someone to Listen”

Occasionally, I find clients who contact me stating, off the bat, that they are looking for a therapist because they have no one in their life that will listen to them…so they’ve succumbed to paying someone to do so. Although I want to dive immediately into challenging this perspective, and exploring this phenomenon with them,...

The Irony of Online Comfort/Finding a Therapist That “Gets It”

As I sit here, preparing to write my first blog, I think about how ironic it is that social media provides me with such a sense of (false) comfort and security. Every day I see stories on the news about teens, for example, who take a racy picture of themselves, text it to a romantic...