Dear Straight Moms, I get it. We don’t look the same. In fact, I probably resemble and dress like your 12 year old son, but unlike him, I actually want to connect with you. When I smile and ask questions about your toddler, it’s because I also have one, and I’m looking for a non-threatening...
what of the mother whose house is in flames and both of her children are in their beds crying and she loves them both with the whole of her heart but she knows she can only carry one at a time? she’s choking on the smoke of unthinkable choices she is haunted by the voices...
People always ask me if I’m enjoying parenthood, and I undoubtedly tell them how much I love it. But the fact of the matter is, despite how much I love being a parent, I hate having a kid. And here’s why. Having a kid has proven challenging in so many ways. Beyond the obvious of...
I have a few clients who identify as queer or lesbian, who also have kids. I myself have a kid. I have queer friends who have kids. I love that people from the queer community have children. But being queer and having a kid isn’t an easy task. Besides the obvious obstacle of actually making...
My partner and I recently (as in 11 weeks ago) had a baby. This experience has been life-changing in so many ways. Beyond the exhaustion, the expenses, and the indescribable love, one thing it has also impacted is our interpersonal relationships. Our friends appeared ecstatic for us from the get go. Everyone was incredibly supportive,...
As I was scrolling through my Facebook feed this morning, an old co-worker had posted an interesting post that piqued my curiosity. The post was a picture of an anonymous woman’s post, discussing why expensive gifts (iPads, new bikes, etc) should not come from Santa. Originally, I found myself slightly annoyed at the audacity of...
For anyone who knows me, I am pretty difficult to offend. I am an open book, and you can ask me anything. And, I’ll take it one step further; not only can you ask me anything, but I will answer honestly, probably in much more depth than you ever expected, anticipated or even wanted. Despite...
Dear Porter, I was just on a very arduous run, when it occurred to me that I absolutely had to write you a letter. The fact that I wrote most of this in my head while pushing myself to exhaustion will become important, but I will not give it the power to overshadow the rest...
